Stop ignoring reality and face it. Do you hear this sometimes? Sure, for some of us, we tend to ignore what hurts, so we layer it with whatever provides us with temporary ease — a bandaid sort of speak.

But, I believe there are ways that you can face the truths of life while also not facing it. Let me explain. I’m a firm believer that what we continue to focus on metastasizes. We call more of the things we don’t want into our lives when we focus on the things we don’t want.

Focusing on the negatives is a challenging habit to break because we live in a society that’s continuously filling our lives with criticism and negativity. But we must be selective about the realities that we face.

Why is this important?

It’s important because you create your reality. Of course, you can’t choose your biological family members, you can’t select your genetics and DNA, but you can (once you start doing the healing work) choose the type of work you want to do. You also can choose the people you want to be around and so forth.

The truth is some folks are born into unfortunate circumstances that are generational, such as poverty, oppression, and every other “ism” imaginable. But, even with unfortunate generational setbacks, some people can find ways to create a whole new set of circumstances for themselves over time.

How were they able to do that?

Viktor Frankl wrote a book called A Man’s Search For Meaning. And as he lived through the concentration camps and watched the Nazis eviscerated everyone he’s ever loved and known, a realization dawned on him.

He discovered one key difference between those who were emotionally (and mentally) able to sustain themselves through such atrocities to those who weren’t able to. They believed.

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.

—Viktor Frankl

You have the power to create your reality. We often create mental prisons and feel shackled to our pain. But once you begin to face the truth, you can then choose which reality will be the one that dominates your attention. You can decide which reality is going to serve you best in the long run.

So, yes, face reality because that’s how you begin to create profound change in your life. But then decide which reality is going to be the most beneficial for you.

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