Resistance is the feeling of being stuck, blocked, or frustrated. It’s that little voice inside your head telling you something isn’t working, and maybe it never will. Resistance can also be external—a friend or family member who just doesn’t get what you’re doing and thinks it’s silly, for example.The first step in overcoming resistance is to understand where it comes from:
Fear of failure: This is perhaps the most common reason why people resist change in their lives. We’ve all heard stories about people who went out on a limb, took a risk, and failed miserably; they became cautionary tales for those considering similar steps themselves.
But these stories are only told after the fact—beforehand, we don’t know how things will turn out, but we can guess based on past experiences (which isn’t always accurate). When faced with an uncertain outcome like this, one has every right to feel scared because there are no guarantees when making significant changes, like quitting your job or starting an online business from scratch.
The Impact of Resistance
Resistance is a natural part of life but can harm your mental health. In fact, some studies show that resistance can be as harmful to your physical and mental health as smoking or obesity.
The consequences of resistance include:
- Increased stress levels
- Depression and anxiety
- Low self-esteem
Identifying Your Resistance
- Self-awareness and recognizing resistance: The first step in overcoming your resistance is to become aware of it. This means being mindful of what you’re doing and why and how your actions affect others.
- Identifying your triggers: Once you’ve identified the source of your resistance, think about how this issue affects other areas of your life—and then make changes accordingly.
- Recognizing signs of resistance (and acting accordingly): If something doesn’t feel right or isn’t working out the way you want, then it’s time for some self-reflection before moving forward with whatever project was causing problems in the first place.
Understanding Your Resistance
Resistance can be a powerful force in your life. It’s why you don’t always do what you want or become who you want to be. It may seem like resistance comes from outside of yourself, but it actually comes from within—and understanding this is critical to overcoming it.
When we resist something, there are usually these things going on:
The root cause of our resistance is often an old belief that no longer serves us (for example, “I’m not good enough” or “I’m not worthy of love”). When confronted with something new or different than what we’re used to doing or being comfortable with, these old beliefs create anxiety around doing whatever we’re resisting doing because they make us feel unsafe or uncomfortable in some way.
This feeling triggers our fight-or-flight response and all kinds of other negative emotions like fear and anger. This leads us down paths where we make choices based on those feelings instead of choosing what truly serves us at the moment. So if this sounds familiar to YOU, then great news: there IS hope! You CAN change those negative beliefs about yourself into positive ones by exploring them further.
Taking Action to Overcome Resistance
- Create a plan of action.
- Identify and utilize resources.
- Develop a support system.
One of the most important things you can do is to develop self-awareness and self-compassion. This means learning how to be mindful, accepting, and caring toward yourself.
- Mindfulness: Mindfulness is a practice that helps us slow down and become more aware of what’s happening in the present moment. It involves paying attention on purpose with an open heart, without judgment or criticism (or any other negative thoughts).
- Acceptance: Acceptance means recognizing that things are as they are right now—and not trying to change them by forcing yourself into some idealized version of reality where everything goes perfectly according to plan all the time! Instead of fighting against reality or wishing it was different than it actually is now. Accept what IS happening right now so that you can move forward with clarity instead of being stuck in resistance mode throughout your day because something unexpected happened.
As you begin to trust yourself, you will be able to value yourself. As you learn to value yourself, you will start believing in yourself. This process takes time and patience but is worth the intention and effort.
Developing an Optimistic Outlook
To develop an optimistic outlook, you must learn to focus on the positive. When something bad happens, it’s easy for us humans to dwell on what went wrong and why it happened. This can lead us down a path of self-blame and guilt that does nothing but make us feel worse. Instead of letting yourself get stuck in this cycle of negativity, try shifting your focus onto what went right instead—how did you handle the situation? Was there anything else that could have been done differently? What did you learn from this experience that will help you in future cases like this one (or similar ones)?
Suppose we want our lives filled with joy and fulfillment. In that case, we must learn how not only accept but embrace change as well as uncertainty by developing resilience: being able to bounce back from adversity without letting setbacks get us down too much or hold us back from moving forward into new opportunities or adventures.
Focusing on the Future
One of the most effective ways to overcome resistance is to focus on the future (without attachment or obsession). This means setting goals and objectives, creating a vision of the future, and developing a plan of action.
Creating a vision can help you see what you want more clearly, which in turn will help inspire you to take action toward achieving it—and overcoming resistance every small step of the way.
If you want to live a more fulfilling life, it’s essential to understand why people resist change and know how to overcome it.
Build your self-compassion and self-confidence. If you don’t believe in yourself enough to act on your goals, no one else will either. Self-compassion means recognizing everyone has flaws and trying not to judge yourself for them—even if someone else does. Self-confidence means believing that even when things are challenging, they’ll work out in the end because you’re capable of overcoming whatever comes your way (or at least trying).
Have an optimistic outlook on life: Research shows that having an optimistic outlook helps people cope with stress better than those who see things as hopeless or negative; this can lead them toward taking steps toward achieving their goals instead of giving up completely when times get tough.0