Your life is a representation of your standards.
What are your current standards for your life? If you look at these categories: family, health, relationships, spirituality, mental and emotional health, what would you say about them?
Tony Robbins says everything is related to whether or not you are raising your standards. It makes sense. But what does he mean by that? I remember when I first heard him say that because it was the catalyst to all of the changes in my life. I realized I had to raise my standards if I wanted to create the life that I wanted to live.
Some of you are living lives at your baseline. I call it the default system. It’s like when you buy a computer for the first time. What do you do? Do you leave it at the default settings? Of course not. You enhance it by adding software or background images, etc. So the question is, why not do the same in your life? What enhancements could you make?
The reason you live at your baseline is because of fears and the possibility of disappointments. When you’re ready to raise your standards, in whichever category you choose, there are a few things that are important to consider.
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Eliminate limiting beliefs.
What belief system are you carrying? These belief systems interfere with you raising your standards. Those two ideas can’t co-exist. For instance, you have this desire to increase your standards, but then these thoughts enter your psyche that jerk you out of the possibilities of what you desire to come true.
When I was ready to have a healthier lifestyle and lose weight, I had to raise my standards, which meant I couldn’t eat the foods that would destroy my body. I couldn’t eat them not because I denied myself, but because those two things could not exist. I had to shift my environment, and I had to say no to a lot of things around me.
And this is why many people find themselves pretty much in this start and stop the cycle when it comes to making changes in their lives. They haven’t fully committed to raising their standards.
Eliminate disharmonized relationships.
Have you found yourself saying, oh that person is okay, they’re kind enough, or they’re not that bad? When you use that kind of language, it isn’t raising your standards. It’s lowering them. When you raise your standards in relationships, you enhance the quality of your relationships. How many of you are looking for deeper connections?
Either with your partner, your friends, or your family members. It’s time to stop making excuses for the relationships that empty you instead of pouring into you and raise your standards in your relationships. Maintaining mediocre relationships complements a mediocre life.
Eliminate negative self-esteem.
Raising your standards has everything to do with how you see yourself, which also is your self-esteem. This takes practice and truth be told, even when you raise your standards in this area, there will be moments when insecurities sneak by, and you doubt yourself. The goal is to recover quickly by accepting yourself as you are. But you must believe you’re worth it.
When you think you have worth, everything else falls into place, such as your relationships and the work that you do. You are worth the income you desire, you are worth having relationships that nourish you, and you are worth living a healthy and physically rewarding life.
Eliminate the shoulds and musts in your life.
Again, you’ll encounter a dip. It’s part of the cycle of life. Do you find yourself saying, “I shouldn’t do this, or should I do that?” Those words hold judgment. Imagine that you’re pulling a car with a piece of rope, that’s how severe judgment is. When you’re feeling like using ‘shoulds’ and ‘musts,’ remember to have self-compassion. Remember to honor your progress because you’re right where you need to be.
If this doesn’t change, you set yourself up for failure when we say yeah I should do this and that, because it leaves room for you not to follow through because of fear of disappointment. And when you get into the habit of thinking, doing, and feeling that way, you find yourself limiting your potential. You find yourself stuck in a loop, and all it does is trip you up.
When you raise your standards, your life begins to reflect those standards. Some people say they need more clarity, but when you enter their homes, everything is disorganized or in chaos. Some people say they want all of these qualities in a mate, but they don’t embody it themselves. But this is why the self is continually evolving, and that’s okay. Just be sure to create a reflection practice so you can adjust your life in ways that bring you peace and joy.
Here’s what you can do now:
The first step is to examine the limiting beliefs that are going to interfere with you raising your standards and crush those suckers. Connect with a friend you trust, a professional, or a journal to remind you of your worth and why it’s essential to eliminate limiting beliefs and break old patterns.
And once you do that, it’s important to set personal standards for yourself. Think about the things you won’t tolerate any more from yourself and others. It’s about building trust with yourself first. This isn’t sexy guys, but these are the things that are going to elevate your life.
Next, assess your current reality and be honest with how your life is in its purest form at this very moment––without judgment. It might even be that the standards you’re living might not be your own. Are these someone else’s standards that you’re living by? It’s only through reflecting and assessing that you can begin to reshape your narrative.
The last ingredient is to ask yourself, who do you need to become to fulfill this new role? What values do you need to change? What people in your life do you need to say goodbye to or adjust that relationship? And what sections of your environment need shifting. It’s from that place you’ll watch your life transform.
Which one of these are you excited to implement into your life?
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