Do you feel enough? Do you feel too much? What gets in the way of you being you?
Let’s take a look at why people struggle with present-day stuff. We can trace it back to the kinds of relationships they have with themselves.
“The fear of not being enough, and the fear of being ‘too much’ are exactly the same fear. The fear of being you.” ––Nayyirah Waheed
Most of this type of wounding stems from specific moments in your life that are so deeply embedded in your psyche that when you’re yo-yoing between feeling not enough and too much you regress to those moments. interactions with others are triggered.
What guides much of our decision-making is the lack of self-love. To move past this is to heal through self-acceptance, forgiveness, and self-love.
Self-Acceptance Brings You Home
Self-acceptance means accepting where you are and who you are. Accepting your physical, mental, and emotional self.
You begin by giving yourself grace, forgiving yourself, finding ways to fall in love with yourself again. You build yourself through positive self-talk and you refrain from seeking external situations and people to make you feel good.
Forgiveness Frees You And Those Holding On To You
Forgiveness comes from a place of love. When you reject forgiving others they take up mental and emotional real estate.
When you fail to forgive yourself you show up with shame and guilt cloaked in should and the expectations you’ve set forth are so rigid they keep you locked in place.
So, now you’re challenged to let go. To let go of parts of yourself that needs to shed. First, write a forgiveness letter to yourself. Write an angry letter to those who have hurt you, and then write a forgiveness letter releasing them.
Self-Love Is A Conscious Decision
Last, think about your relationship with self-love. Ask yourself, how are you loving towards you, the most important relationship of them all. Would you want to be your own friend? Would you want to date you?
Consider the language you use and how you use that language to nourish or destroy pieces of yourself. You find yourself seeking relationships with others without first laying the foundation for the relationship with yourself.
How do you love yourself on a daily basis?
If you don’t feel like you’re enough, say to yourself, “I’m doing the best that I can and the Universe gave me everything I needed to be the best me. No mistakes were made.”
When you feel as if you’re too much, say to yourself, “I am enough. I am enough for the right people and for those who I am not, they’ll be released from me. I let them go.”
Reciting affirmations like these may feel fake, untrue because these words are foreign to you. You must grow into them and the way you do that is to recite them repeated until they seep into your psyche. When they do, the old woundings will shrink in size.
Get clear on the fears beneath the words that you say and the feelings that you feel.0